Staying single is the key to longevity. That is not according to some scientific research, but the opinion of some of the oldest people in the world. It is probably not insignificant that those asked were all women. One was 109. Another was 108.
Emma Morano divorced her husband in 1938 and says it was the best thing that ever happened to her. Now 115, she’s the oldest person in Europe and the third oldest person in the world. She told the New York Times she’s still alive for two reasons: she eats three raw eggs a day, and she has remained single.
The Washington Post had an article that culled together even more examples of centenarians and super centenarians who believe that being unattached has extended their lives.
But when it comes to longevity, no media outlet has more information and expertise than Growing Bolder. Not the Washington Post, not the New York Times. Growing Bolder CEO Marc Middleton is the author of the enlightening book, Rock Stars of Aging, 50 Ways to Live to 100: Lifestyle Secrets of Centenarians.
We have interviewed many of the oldest people on the planet. And yes, there is some support for the idea that longevity and staying single make a great couple. I myself have heard it first-hand, but never more clearly than from a lovely, sharp and very old woman named Ruth Leiber. I was invited to her 110th birthday party where she explained why she believed avoiding the alter extended her life. “Can you think of any married people who have lived this long?”
So, could it be that marriage will kill you? Maybe so. Maybe we should do something about it. Maybe it’s time to think about starting a fundraising campaign, wearing some kind of ribbon or wrist band and holding events to raise money to “cure”marriage. Or maybe not.
I’m not 115 and I’m quite certain I never will be but to me, marriage has been the best and most meaningful part of my life. Has it added stress, enough to perhaps shave years off of my life? Absolutely! But it has given me so much more: a partner to share experiences with, good and bad, a best friend to root for and be with, a solid rock to lean on and the greatest reason of all, a wonderful mother to our son.
Who knows why we live as long as we do? But I do know this. Age is just a number. Life is defined by the tapestry of experiences, emotions and relationships we weave together along our journeys. Could it be that single people do live longer? Perhaps. But I wouldn’t trade the time shared with my wife, even for a few extra decades!