It’s a song by Tower of Power. It should also be a mantra.
It’s a lesson so important it’s one of the first things a parent should teach a child. Every teacher should go over it on the very first day of school. Heck, it’s so much bigger than that, that it probably should be added as the eleventh commandment. Thou shalt funk the dumb stuff!
So simple, yet this one little phrase can save relationships, avert heartaches, smooth stresses and totally change your outlook on life. Just think of all the “dumb stuff” we don’t funk. Far too often, the things that really set us off, completely irritate us, bring us to our wits end and send us over the top are things that were unintentional, misunderstood and don’t really matter much anyway.
Wars have been started, marriages ended, friendships fizzled from things as simple as having a bad day, saying something you didn’t mean, or by simply misunderstanding.
We are a culture of overreactors. We are fastidious read-into experts. We know what others are really saying better than they do! Good times can evaporate in an instant from our memories. Not such good times are etched there forever. Someone can do a hundred nice things for us, but the second they slip up with a snarky comment, a perceived slight, or a misunderstood oversight… it’s all over!
Just like in the fairy tale: someone can be nice enough to give us a whole stack of mattresses, but if there’s a pea under it we will feel it. And we won’t like it one bit!
Then, we’ll dwell. We are excellent dwellers. We’ll take one negative incident, crawl inside and live there. Do you have any family members or former good friends who haven’t spoken in years? I’m sure some have very legitimate reasons. But most are because we dwell.
After dwelling we hunker down. Dig the foxhole. Build the wall. No way I’m peeking over the top. Reach out? Not me, I’ll show you!
People have held grudges for years, family members have stayed apart for the rest of their lives. For what?
Life presents so many real challenges. We will all have unexpected obstacles, heartbreak and tragedies to deal with. It’s family and friends that help us push through. We need all the love and support we can acquire in life. But yet we’re so quick to chop a whole tree down just because we didn’t like a leaf.
Okay. So, how do we know if it’s “dumb stuff” or legit? The answer is, it’s ALL dumb stuff. Again, it is ALL dumb stuff until we make it legit by overreacting to it. So, avert the drama, save yourself a ton of stress, and stop letting others affect your outlook. Just think of those four little words.
Funk the dumb stuff.